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FAQ

Do You Claim to Give Mental Health Advice When It Comes to Resolving Conflict?

No. My goal isn't to help others create better mental health; it is to help others respect their inherent worth by taking on the full responsibility for changing their moral intentions. I do believe that this helps support better mental health, indirectly, like many things do.

I understand that mental illnesses are caused by factors directly outside of our control at no fault of our own; however, how we choose to deal with mental health conditions is always within our full control, morally-speaking, unless we aren't capable of intending to do harm because we lack the ability to reason.

Why Aren’t You Qualified or Educated as a Conflict Resolution Specialist, Since You Are Giving Advice on This Topic?

 

Qualified specialists employ proven strategies to help two or more people resolve conflict. The goal is to help people reach an agreement together towards a solution. I do not want to promote the goal to get people to agree towards a solution, but to respect our equal, inherent worth (to create better moral intentions). It is possible to have both goals at once, and many experts are extremely good at providing this approach, which is critically needed in certain scenarios, especially life-threatening ones as well as within professional, political, and legal environments, but we need to also start looking into another solution to conflict resolution, too, that gets to the root of the problem and doesn't just try to get people to agree. ​​

 

Why Do You Claim to Know What is Morally Right When You Don’t Have a Degree in Moral Philosophy or Other Qualifications in Religion or Spirituality?

 

I don’t believe our ability to intend to do what is right has to be under the qualifications of anyone or any institution; that would go against the concept that we should be solely responsible for creating and changing our moral intentions, so long as we are capable of creating them (have the ability to reason). This doesn't mean learning from others doesn't help us learn right from wrong. 

Please note, I believe that without the ability to reason, we aren't capable of intending to do what is right or wrong. Those who aren't as capable of reasoning, like young children, shouldn't be held as responsible for doing wrong, equal to fully functioning adults.

 

What Makes Shine Your Light Co. Different?

Shine Your Light Co. presents the idea that we should be 100% responsible for creating our moral intentions. 

 

Too many of us do not have the skills to be able to do what is right or discern whether someone else is doing what is right because we aren’t taking on the full responsibility for creating our intentions (principle #1). This is what causes unresolved conflict. In order to protect ourselves from the unrelenting false beliefs about our inherent worth that come from our unwillingness to manage our moral lives and discern right from wrong, we implement alternative ways to temporarily protect ourselves. These alternative, harmful ways, which deny our equal, inherent worth, are as follows:

1) We will seek to obey the moral intentions of another/others in an attempt to protect ourselves from our own bad intentions. In this way, we will pretend that others have more inherent, intuitive abilities to know right from wrong than us and therefore more inherent worth than us. In this way we are not taking full responsibility for creating and managing our moral intentions. This is self-deprecating (below others in inherent worth).

2) We will seek to get others to obey our moral intentions in our attempt to protect ourselves from others' bad intentions. In this way we are not taking full responsibility for creating and managing our moral intentions. We won't be fully capable of seeing our faults if we think others have less inherent worth than us. This is narcissistic-like or arrogant (above others in inherent worth).

3) We will deny the reality of objective morality or the existence of objective moral intentions all together as a way to attempt to protect ourselves from our perceived inherent worthlessness. The idea that we are not directly at fault for anything supports this idea. In this way we are not taking on the full responsibility for creating and managing our moral intentions. This is self-denial (our inherent worth, objectively, doesn't exist at all).

The Solution 

The solution is to protect ourselves from bad intentions by creating and changing our moral intentions, independent from anyone else!

We should not attempt to find alternative ways to do what is "right" by getting others to obey our moral intentions, OR seek to obey the moral intentions of others, OR choose to believe that morality doesn't objectively exist!

 

The only way to respect the equal inherent worth of us all is to work towards taking 100% responsibility for creating and changing our moral intentions. In this way we will become more capable of resolving and preventing conflict.

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